We live in a world where nearly everything is available immediately: information, books, results, etc... I remember as a teen waiting patiently in the afternoon for the newspaper delivery man so that I could look at the box scores from the previous night's baseball game. Now I'm irritated when mlb.com doesn't have them updated after every inning! So it is no wonder that when I spoke with someone that was grieving this morning they lamented how they couldn't shake their grief--the event causing the grief happened less than a month ago!
We assume that because we can cook a hotdog in 30 seconds or have our questions answered by wiki in the time it takes us to type them that we should get over grief quickly. It doesn't happen that way. Grief is that one thing that we cannot rush. There is no button, no internet website, no pill that we can take that will expedite the grieving process. It takes time and often a long time. So please, for the love of God, never tell anyone "Get over it". Give them time, give them your unconditional presence, but don't try to fix them or rush their grieving process.
